It is natural for everyone’s sexual drive and libido to fluctuate throughout their lives.
Some people find that they desire more sexual activity as they age, while others find their libido decreasing as they get older.
People with vaginas may find that their sex drive constantly changes depending on their hormone levels, menstrual cycle, lifestyle, and other internal and external factors.
In this article, we’ll explore the main symptoms of low libido and low sex drive in women and those who identify as women.
We’ll also look at what causes low libido and what treatment options are available to help increase libido when desired.
Symptoms of Low Libido in Women
It can be frustrating and stressful to experience low libido when you don’t know what is causing it or know how to manage it.
However, low libido is an extremely common condition and quite healthy.
In recent years more than 60% of cohabiting couples in the United States have expressed a reduction in sexual desire.
Knowing what symptoms to look for will help you identify whether you have low libido.
No or low interest in sexual activities
This includes masturbation, kissing, foreplay, penetrative and non-penetrative sex, and the stimulation of body parts.
No or low interest in sex
If you do not think about sex or have not thought about sexual activity in a long time, you might have low libido.
If you do not have sexual fantasies, have no thoughts about sex, or are unable to find another person or yourself attractive in a sexual manner, you may have low libido.
No or low pleasure from sexual activity
If you find that participating in sexual activities does not provide you pleasure or make you uncomfortable, it could be a symptom of low libido.
This includes sexual activities that are causing you pain or no sensation at all.
Feelings of dissatisfaction and stress in relation to sexual activity
If thoughts of or physical acts of sexual activity make you uncomfortable or cause you anxiety, then you may have a low libido.
Causes of Low Libido in Women
Low libido is a natural fact of life and happens to almost everyone.
There is often an identifiable cause or reason for a decrease in sexual appetite.
Certain ailments, chronic conditions, and physical changes can lead to low libido.
If you have recently had surgery, have been in an accident, or have injured yourself, then this can be a reason for a change in sexual desire.
If your body is tired, both mentally and physically, you might not be in the mood for sexual activity.
Your lifestyle habits, for example, alcohol consumption and tobacco, can lead to low sex drive and erectile dysfunction.
Pregnancy and menopause cause hormonal changes in your body which can change sexual desires.
Pregnant and breastfeeding people tend to be more tired, and the sexual appetite of both partners is commonly affected during this time.
When nearing menopause, the body’s estrogen levels drop, causing a lower libido and making sexual activity uncomfortable or even painful due to vaginal dryness.
This can affect premenopausal and postmenopausal women too.
If you notice the below additional signs of a hormonal imbalance or changes in hormones, seek medical guidance.
- Night sweats, hot flashes, cool sweats
- Depression, anxiety, stress
- Mood swings
- Changes in weight
- Acne, skin problems
- Changes in appetite
Your mental health and well-being play a crucial role in determining your sexual desires and libido.
Someone with low self-esteem and poor body image can struggle with feeling unattractive which can affect intimacy with their partner.
Anxiety, depression, and previous sexual encounters that leave a negative impression in a person’s mind can result in low libido.
If you are suffering from or have suffered from sexual trauma or abuse, seek medical help immediately.
Many people find that they need a strong emotional bond with their partner before they can indulge in sexual activity.
If there is a disconnect in the relationship, arguments, poor communication, or any unresolved conflicts, libido may remain low until the issues are resolved.
To get a diagnosis about the cause or reason for your low libido, you will need to consult a medical practitioner.
They will ask you some questions about your lifestyle and sexual history.
It is important that you are completely honest about this to receive an accurate diagnosis.
You may also be asked to undergo certain physical examinations and tests, including:
- A pelvic exam
- Blood and urine tests
- Thyroid function tests
It is important not to let low sex drive frustrate you even further – especially since there are plenty of treatment options and ways to overcome this today.
Sex education and counseling
Many people find talking therapy and counseling to be effective solutions for low sexual desires.
This is useful when there are relationship issues or psychological causes for low libido.
Your medical professional may be able to suggest some exercises for you to do by yourself or as a couple.
They will also help you to resolve any pending conflicts.
Since intimacy issues like sexual performance and low libido go beyond the scope of what you would normally discuss with your healthcare provider, you may need to consult someone who is more experienced in sexual health.
They may want to speak to each partner alone or as a couple.
Many also help people overcome their fears and biases regarding sexual activity.
Disclose to your medical professional any medications you are on so that they can monitor if the side effects are causing your low libido.
They may want to switch their prescribed medications or change the dosage accordingly.
Certain drugs such as Flibanserin and Bremalanotide can be prescribed to treat low libido.
All medications should be taken only after consultation with a healthcare provider.
If hormonal changes cause your low libido, then your medical provider will prescribe hormonal therapies and drugs to help balance or increase certain hormones in your body.
You will need to undergo some tests to check estrogen and testosterone levels in the body.
You may be prescribed ospemifene or dehydroepiandrosterone to help treat low libido and vaginal dryness.
Other ways to regulate your hormones and entice sexual desire include:
- Regular exercise and physical activity
- Roleplay, intimacy activities, and stress-relieving exercises
- Going on holiday, taking a break from stressful activities, and distracting yourself from daily routine
- Maintaining a healthy relationship and open, honest communication with your partner
- Going for a massage or spa day to relax
When to Seek Medical Attention
Remember that there is no fixed benchmark or required amount of libido that you need.
Each person’s sexual appetite and desire are different, and it is healthy for it to fluctuate and change throughout your life.
Many couples and people in relationships find that they do not require constant sexual activity and find other ways to be intimate and build a bond.
However, if your low sex drive is a cause of concern for you and is proving to be a hindrance to your relationship and lifestyle, then seek medical attention.
If you previously were able to feel and experience sexual pleasure in sexual activities and now find that it is unpleasant or painful then consult a medical expert for guidance.
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